I wouldn't normally reply at all, but Adam--you do realize this is a server forum, yes? I don't feel particularly urgent impulses inside myself to help potential competition. Even so, I do offer limited startup support from time to time. We've had a lot of these kinds of requests lately though.
Really though, I guess my first observation would be this:
If you can't figure out how to give yourself admin rights on your own server, should you really be trying to host?
I don't mean that in a rude or disrespectful way, but it really begs an answer.