My wife or gamer's anonymous

[HUBBA]

Here is a good solution. Buy your wife a computer and get her interested in Tribes. Problem solved. You both play the in the server together.

[sin]

I had this problem a few years ago with my wife.  We were young and she was very needy.  What we finally did was write up a schedule for computer usage and it worked pretty good.  Unfortunately we divorced later and now my new wife lets me play all the time cause she loves to do the same things as me.  

The moral is:  If you too dont have things in common, then you might want to look more closely at the relationship and consider that you might not be meant for each other.  My new wife and I are perfect together.  Hell, she even plays tribes.

Also, this needy personality that your wife has probably stems from some deficient childhood parenting and she needs to sort that out.

[RedneckNoob]

The neediness probably comes from getting large amounts of attention as a young child.  When you get large amounts of attention it is written to your subconcious that you are supposed to have attention.

But yea, the games.  Dude, six hours a day, when you actually have a life (unlike me, so I'm kinda being hypocritical) is way more than is necessary.  I understand your want to excel and dominate because I feel the urges constantly.  I once played a game for 43 hours straight (I was timing it) because I was trying to master a certain portion of it.  All you have to do is realize when to pull yourself away.  A thing I discovered that helps so that you can pull yourself away is to start getting up and out of your chair every time you have learned something new or done something new.  Like, every time you know that you level, go and grab a drink.  When I do this I start to realize the passage of time better and that there are other things going on.  It helps, even with my extremely addictive personality.

[Particle]

And here I've been wishing that I could get addicted to a game like everyone else does for years.  It just hasn't happened since childhood.  Something changed, but I still can't place it.

I used to play about 30 hours of QuakeWorld per week (we only had 40 hours total per week of access or it would be more) back in 96 and 97.  I just don't find myself doing that anymore...and I miss it.

[JayJay]

Stop playing games.  You'll have LOTS more free time.  You can still surf the web, and do coding and what not, but stop gaming.  I haven't played Tribes in over a year and a half, and Quake 4 for a year.  I have lots more freetime.  One thing gaming did for me tho is keep me away from alcohol, but meh, its okay, its still fun.

[plasma]

Can you post pics of your wife just in case you choose Tribes over her...

[Celtic16]

i got married in december, I haven't played from then.

In my opinion Wife>Trpg



On the other hand, why should you quit doing something you like because you're married....It'll take a while to get used to things ...how long have you been married?

[Tony]

With my son's mother (girlfriend before my wife) I went through the samething with me being more into the computer than her, eventually we worked out a time schedule which didn't work with her and since she broke the agreement I went back to being on it when I wanted. I believe the time schedule might work with her, I can be on the game when she's at work and for a couple of hours when I get home from work OR until she wakes up which could be seconds once I sit down in the chair then she wants me to come to bed , but I feel that's not enough time for me.

I do care for my wife and nothing comes above her but I care more about MY time than the WE time and that's properly where I mess up but if she wants to do anything or wants me to do anything I almost always gives in to the demand. I'm a gamer, I'm a computer geek and I have a addiction all of which are healthy for my future considering this is going to be my career field. I just don't want to give up the time.

We are meant to be with each other, we get along so perfectly and we both use logic to resolve most problems but on this one I refuse to give up what's important to me and don't get me wrong she's important too but I had some important things before I met her that I don't want to give up.

Can't post a picture of my wife, she would have a fit, she wants to read this thread once a solution has been found for my little issue. Glad we are making progress.


[markCraeo]

[Kyrie]

I'm a gamer, I'm a computer geek and I have a addiction all of which are healthy for my future considering this is going to be my career field.

Professional Tribes Player?

[IceCube]

just quit cause im going to kill you for making so many long posts and because there is going to be a CLEAR

[Vorter_X_]

Don't say that type of thing. Rumors are always floating about clears. But have you seen one in the last what 1300 days?

[RedneckNoob]

Stop playing games.

You are evil incarnate.  You speak blasphemey.  Heretic!  Heretic!

[Sako]

my opinion is : If a machine ( computer ) is more important than your wife ( living person ) you definately have a problem. It's the same problem than gambling and things like that.

[Artorius]

my opinion is : If a machine ( computer ) is more important than your wife ( living person ) you definately have a problem. It's the same problem than gambling and things like that.

I should think it depends on the wife. =/

I didn't realize we had so many psychatrists on the forum.

How much time can TRPG possibly take? I mean.. you should be scripting 99% of the time.

[Particle]

Nothing against your wife--I'm sure she's a wonderful person, but (and you knew a "but" was coming, didn't you?) I think you had a good strategy worked out before-hand.  It's worked for me so far.  I don't think I'd be able to make somebody else happy unless they liked computers enough to be able to appreciate my own like of technology.