I wasn't always this way. After about a year to a year and a half I got REALLY tired of all the crap I have to put up with. From about that point, my "grace" period between nice and pissed started to sharply diminish. I wanted to shut down the server a year ago... I can't actually say I like this anymore. It's just an annoyance and nothing good ever comes from it. I more or less hate it--more some days than others. The stress of weighing action against the good of most just plain sucks.
I've adopted that "If you can't respect me, then you're gone." policy. I don't tend to put up with much anymore.
As for ICQ, I usually accept people about once every total solar eclipse. A trillion people add me, and some times if I don't recognize any names I just delete them (the requests). As for email, I've been ignoring all of it since about the 20th of last month.
I used to be kind and forgiving before I started the server. You all did this to me, slowly.